Finding That One Thing She Needs

It is so easy to be in love with kids amazingly unique qualities! 

I love asking leading questions and getting to see what they are made of and what's going on behind those sparkling, thoughtful blue eyes. One of mine, since the youngest age, has been able to tell when people care and see her, and when they don't. She'd know at a family party at age two who was invested and who wasn't, and good luck! 

Lately I've been doing more one-on-one "dates" with my kids and we both eat. it. up.  My daughter has a need to bee seen, so when those tiny attention-seeking behaviors show up and tell me she needs to stand out, or and she starts retreating into her mind and feels forgotten, I'm on it. 

McDonald's (her FAVORITE) reopened their lobby and the park was calling. This date lasted 45 minutes and got cut short by surprise Saturday plans, but it was everything she needed and now I get to know this her deeper and keep it in my mind forever.  (What was so funny is she wanted to play little word games we used to play and then showed me a bunch of tricks on the playground. She wished to feel like my little girl and show me her talents.) I was reminded how small she actually is and to balance it with my support for her as she gets older. 

There are four of them and they have 100 needs that get tackled when they get tackled, but I just look for that one. What is the one thing they really need right now? Support? To be noticed? Ideas? Creativity outlet? Reminder of something?  I can handle that. :)